Mixed Feelings: Brain Development and the 5-7 Shift

What if it was mostly thanks to our relationship with our parents that we grow into mature and lovely grown ups… or, the opposite, our parents prevented our brains from developing to their full potential which turned us into immature people who react in the moment? If this is true, then we have a dutyContinue reading “Mixed Feelings: Brain Development and the 5-7 Shift”

The Good Enough Parent by School of Life Book Review

I’m honoured to have been offered The Good Enough Parent book to write a review about before it’s released. The title was very exciting for me whilst I waited for it to arrive. I imagined it to fill me with confidence that our kids will still turn out happy enough without us being perfect. MyContinue reading “The Good Enough Parent by School of Life Book Review”

Life Changing Question: Who Should We Hang Out With?

This feels like the first life changing question my gut instinct doesn’t help me answer. Is it beneficial to hang around with other people who are not gentle in parenting or teaching style? Will exposing my 3 young children to, in my opinion, unhealthy emotional or physical situations cause any harm? On the flip side,Continue reading “Life Changing Question: Who Should We Hang Out With?”

I Managed To Take 3 Young Children Out Alone, Safely

We finally did it! I managed to safely take our 4 year 3 month old, and 2 year 7 month old twins out alone. Why? How? What would I do differently? Most importantly, would I do it again? This blog post answers these questions. What Stopped Me Going Out When the twins were newborn andContinue reading “I Managed To Take 3 Young Children Out Alone, Safely”

The Fear of Physical Hurting Your Children

As a child my Mum used physical force and fear to try and control my behaviour, or perhaps to release her frustration. I forgive my Mum of this as it’s just her traumas surfacing and she did not find a way to deal with them. I also know how stressful it can be when yourContinue reading “The Fear of Physical Hurting Your Children”

Poem About Working Through Childhood Trauma

My last blog post was about dealing with my childhood trauma by releasing my fears. I wrote that post hopeful that I wouldn’t find myself re-triggered by my daughter’s thumb sucking. I had a few moments where I felt overwhelmed again, and I went back through the process written in my last blog post. IContinue reading “Poem About Working Through Childhood Trauma”

Dad’s Blog: Knowing When to Step Up in My Parenting Role… And When to Step Back

There are some challenges we can face as a working Dad with a stay at home gentle parenting wife. Most of the days we’re out at work. Our wives can need our support more than our ancestors who lived with bigger support networks (see my wife’s previous post about a lacking support village). It takesContinue reading “Dad’s Blog: Knowing When to Step Up in My Parenting Role… And When to Step Back”

“She Doesn’t Listen to Anything We Say!”

This is a conversation starter my husband has had with me at least once… or twice… or more! This blog post is a reminder about the aim of gentle parenting and why we should not let our children’s inability to listen when we want them to sway us from our hard work. First, we debateContinue reading ““She Doesn’t Listen to Anything We Say!””

Gentle Parenting View on Sharing / Turn Taking

When I had just one child, I naturally wanted her to share with others. I felt that was the expectation of those around me, and I guess I was raised with the view that sharing with others was a good thing. When the twins arrived, I soon discovered forcing one child to share is likeContinue reading “Gentle Parenting View on Sharing / Turn Taking”

Poems: About My Gentle Dad

There is the well known proverb that “it takes a village to raise a child”. Why does this saying exist? Why do villages not seem common anymore? Do we need a village to be a gentle parent? How can we create our own village? I refer to a poem about my Dad which I wroteContinue reading “Poems: About My Gentle Dad”