Too Clingy, Only Wants to be With One Parent

My youngest daughter literally only wants to be with me, Mummy, 80% of the time. The rest of the time she is comfortable with her siblings only. She appears to be totally petrified of her Daddy. She has to cling onto my trousers, nearly pulling them down in public, just to be near to me.Continue reading “Too Clingy, Only Wants to be With One Parent”

Oh, The Tears! “I Don’t Want To Die EVER!”

You may have read my previous post about my own fear of death, which the early COVID situation brought to the surface frequently. I had just about turned my life around to being healthier, with the aim of living as long as possible, when my daughter was extremely sad about the prospect of her ownContinue reading “Oh, The Tears! “I Don’t Want To Die EVER!””

Dealing With Your Own Childhood Traumas: When You Feel Fear

The ultimate emotion caused by childhood trauma is fear (for example see this research paper). With that in mind, how do we determine what our fears are when we feel triggered by our children? Any gentle parents who have been working through their childhood traumas know that their triggers are caused by their own traumas.Continue reading “Dealing With Your Own Childhood Traumas: When You Feel Fear”

Poems: About My Gentle Dad

There is the well known proverb that “it takes a village to raise a child”. Why does this saying exist? Why do villages not seem common anymore? Do we need a village to be a gentle parent? How can we create our own village? I refer to a poem about my Dad which I wroteContinue reading “Poems: About My Gentle Dad”

Explaining Life of Restricted Socialising to a 3 Year Old: COVID-19 Case Study

I hear so many parents struggling with how to help their toddlers understand why they are self isolating at the moment. Many families may have avoided communicating the worldwide pandemic much at all, in fear of instilling their children with fears of germs or other people. They believe their children are too little and shouldContinue reading “Explaining Life of Restricted Socialising to a 3 Year Old: COVID-19 Case Study”

Poem: Mum Guilt For the Eledest When Welcoming Siblings Into The Family

Mother’s guilt didn’t make a huge appearance in my life until I had my second and third child. Suddenly, responding to my eldest’s needs seemed increasingly impossible at times. We watched a lot of TV. She was told to wait a lot longer than most 20 month old babies. She had to co-sleep with DaddyContinue reading “Poem: Mum Guilt For the Eledest When Welcoming Siblings Into The Family”

The Importance of the First 3 Years for Brain Development

There is a common belief that the first 3 years of childhood are key to the whole future life of that child, into adulthood and beyond. ‘The Myth of the First Three Years’ by John Brewer assesses the science behind the public perception. Whilst the book was published in 2002, a lot of the scienceContinue reading “The Importance of the First 3 Years for Brain Development”

What’s That You Say? No TV Time? … At All?

Many gentle parents also follow the practise of no screen time (yes, you read that correctly!) or limiting screen time for their children and / or themselves. There are many lifestyle factors that can make this a huge challenge for some families. However, it’s worth educating ourselves on the recommendations and reasons for those recommendations,Continue reading “What’s That You Say? No TV Time? … At All?”

Gentle Reminder that maybe You’ve Been a Better Parent than You Remember

Sometimes when we become a parent, we go with the flow and just give it our best stab in the dark. We are overwhelmed with other parents (or even non-parents) telling us what we should do to raise our kids. We may not even know what style of parenting we are following. As time goesContinue reading “Gentle Reminder that maybe You’ve Been a Better Parent than You Remember”

Male Perspective: Lost for Words

My wife noticed we have gained a lot of male followers to this gentle parent blog, which so far has been predominantly from the Mum’s perspective. We felt it may therefore important for us to show a dad’s perspective to gentle parenting. I am a busy business owner, being away from the home for 10Continue reading “Male Perspective: Lost for Words”